Fitness & Health

How I Built a Training Habit That Actually Stuck (After Years of Failing)

✍️ Fawaz Sheikh📅 December 2024⏱ 6 min read

I've started over more times than I can count — gym memberships in Frisco, running routes through DFW, home workout setups that collected dust. New programme, fresh motivation, two weeks of consistency, then something interrupts — travel, work, illness — and the habit evaporates. I spent years cycling through this pattern before I finally understood what I was getting wrong.

The answer wasn't a better programme. It wasn't a new gym or a smarter app. It was embarrassingly simple, and once I understood it, everything changed for Fawaz Sheikh.

The problem with motivation

Most people build their training around motivation. They train when they feel like it. They set ambitious goals, ride the initial enthusiasm, and then when the feeling fades — as it always does — the habit disappears with it.

Motivation is not a reliable foundation for a habit. It's variable, emotional, and dependent on circumstances you can't control. If your training depends on feeling motivated, you've already lost.

"I stopped waiting to feel like training. I started training whether I felt like it or not. That single change was the whole answer." — Fawaz Sheikh

What actually works

Make it non-negotiable, not aspirational
I treat training like brushing my teeth. I don't evaluate whether I feel like doing it. It just happens. Removing the decision removes the opportunity to opt out.
Start smaller than feels worthwhile
I started with 20-minute sessions. Not because 20 minutes is enough — it isn't — but because 20 minutes is easy to show up for. Once the habit exists, you can extend it. You can't extend a habit that doesn't exist.
Same time, same days, every week
Consistency of schedule reduces friction. When training happens at 7am Monday, Wednesday and Friday every week, you stop thinking about whether to do it and just do it.
Never miss twice
Missing once is fine. Life happens. Missing twice is the beginning of quitting. The rule is simple: if I miss a session, the next one is non-negotiable.
Track attendance, not performance
For the first three months I only tracked whether I showed up. Not how I performed, not how I felt, not what I lifted. Just: did I train today? That's all that matters in the beginning.

Two years later

I've now trained consistently for over two years. I've travelled extensively during that time, worked through stressful periods, gotten ill, had bad weeks. The habit held through all of it — not because I was disciplined or motivated, but because I built a system that didn't depend on either.

For more from Fawaz Sheikh on health and lifestyle, read eating well while travelling or explore the hiking essentials guide.

More from Fawaz Sheikh

⚽ Fawaz Sheikh Sports 🏋 Fawaz Sheikh Fitness ✈ Fawaz Sheikh Travel 🍲 Fawaz Sheikh Food